Hermit Posted July 17, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 Re: The cranky thread I wake up to find grandma has regressed and they are putting her in hospice. She was in physical pain this morning, and not recognizing anyone (Which given enough pain is not surprising). They have her on morphine and lord knows what else trying to help but what I hear is alarming. I thought she was at least getting physically better, but perhaps that was just some last hoorah. We'll see Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xavier Onassiss Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 Re: The cranky thread 430am: Awakened by crying child. 500am: Awakened by crying child. 545am: Awakened by crying child. 630am: Telemarketer call. I would seriously be tempted to put Telemarketer on the phone with Crying Child.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawnmower Boy Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 Re: The cranky thread I would seriously be tempted to put Telemarketer on the phone with Crying Child.... I bet that for a lot of the telemarketers, that would be a welcome relief. At least the kid's not screaming obscenities at you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted July 18, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Folks, I have received word that earlier tonight, my grandmother passed away. She is believed to have done so without pain and mother was by her side. The family extends its thanks once again to all those who have sent prayers and support. While details of ceremony and legalities will be settled in the days to come, the important thing is this: She is now at peace and going to once again be with my grandfather. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megaplayboy Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Folks' date=' I have received word that earlier tonight, my grandmother passed away. She is believed to have done so without pain and mother was by her side. The family extends its thanks once again to all those who have sent prayers and support. While details of ceremony and legalities will be settled in the days to come, the important thing is this: She is now at peace and going to once again be with my grandfather.[/quote'] My sincere condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted July 18, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread My sincere condolences. Thank you. I believe that when the funeral and other aspects of the next week are done, I shall have a private ceremony of my own where I ritually burn a tie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MisterVimes Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread I'm so very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tkdguy Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread My prayers and condolences, Hermit for you and your whole family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zen Archer Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread My condolences, Hermit. I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Folks' date=' I have received word that earlier tonight, my grandmother passed away. She is believed to have done so without pain and mother was by her side. The family extends its thanks once again to all those who have sent prayers and support. While details of ceremony and legalities will be settled in the days to come, the important thing is this: She is now at peace and going to once again be with my grandfather.[/quote'] I'm sorry to hear that, Hermit. The only way I got thru my dad's funeral was to remember he was no longer in a body that had failed him, and was in a better place. And it only partly helps because I still miss him 6 years later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted July 18, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Oh, trust me. Selfish bastage that I am I bitterly resent her loss and likely always will, but another part is very glad she can't be hurt anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zen Archer Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Oh' date=' trust me. Selfish bastage that I am I bitterly resent her loss and likely always will, but another part is very glad she can't be hurt anymore.[/quote'] I lost my uncle back in March. I had similar feelings, but ended up leaning towards the "glad he can't be hurt anymore" phase much more. Still feel that way even now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Man Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Oh' date=' trust me. Selfish bastage that I am I bitterly resent her loss and likely always will, but another part is very glad she can't be hurt anymore.[/quote'] Sorry to hear she went, but glad she's done suffering. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pattern Ghost Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Folks' date=' I have received word that earlier tonight, my grandmother passed away. She is believed to have done so without pain and mother was by her side. The family extends its thanks once again to all those who have sent prayers and support. While details of ceremony and legalities will be settled in the days to come, the important thing is this: She is now at peace and going to once again be with my grandfather.[/quote'] My condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Klytus Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Sorry to hear she went' date=' but glad she's done suffering.[/quote'] Likewise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teh bunneh Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread My condolences, Hermit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SatinKitty Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Very, very sorry, Hermit. May whatever God you pray to be with you and your family during this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megaplayboy Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread Just to inject a brief, hopeful note into this thread: I normally suffer from mild cyclical depression, but because of my pending divorce this had worsened considerably. I got my psychiatrist's approval to up the dosage on my "vitamin P"(I was taking the minimum), and in the past couple days my depression has essentially subsided/disappeared. Score one for modern psychotropics! Now, I'm still getting divorced, which sucks, but at least I can make it through my days and stay productive and stable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted July 18, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread I'm glad to hear you're doing better than you were, Mega . Best of luck and strength to you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
megaplayboy Posted July 18, 2012 Report Share Posted July 18, 2012 Re: The cranky thread I'm glad to hear you're doing better than you were' date=' Mega . Best of luck and strength to you[/quote'] Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted July 19, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Re: The cranky thread joy. I've been made a pallbearer Last time I was a pallbearer it was for my grandfather years ago and I nearly dropped him. I'm not any less of a wet noodle now in the arm strength department. And it's a two day process (also fun) visitation tomorrow for two hours in the evening, then the funeral march Friday afternoon. My fear of Murphy being an optimist makes me think the odds of me screwing something up just doubled. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enforcer84 Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Re: The cranky thread My condolences, Hermit. I'm sure you'll do fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrosshairCollie Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Re: The cranky thread It's times like these you realize just how weak words can be. My condolences to your and yours, Hermit. Edit: Bleah. AGAIN. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teh bunneh Posted July 19, 2012 Report Share Posted July 19, 2012 Re: The cranky thread You'll do fine, Hermit. And again, my condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SSgt Baloo Posted July 20, 2012 Report Share Posted July 20, 2012 Re: The cranky thread I had just been posted to Ramstein AB, Germany, when my 78-year-old grandmother passed away, only the second death of someone close I had experienced (the first being my second-oldest sister in 1972, a casualty of the '60s drug culture. She had not been experiencing failing health or significantly diminished capacity, so it came as a complete surprise to me that she had passed away. Due to circumstances beyond my control, I was informed of her Death days after she had passed away (the same day as her funeral). In the summer of 1988, My Dad, diagnosed with "invasive" cancer"* just four months earlier, my Dad passed away from his disease. He was only lucid perhaps a week before he began his rapid decline, and my family got me home just about a month before he finally passed. I was the "Man of the house", so I was the one who had to get training at the hospital to use an aspirator to get excessive fluid from my dad's lungs. It wasn't so much to prolong at this point, but to just help him get more oxygen. When he died a few days later, I remember saying to myself "He's at peace, it's over". It was the first death I ever had to contend with that didn't come as a complete surprise. For once, I wasn't devastated, but merely saddened. Then the penny dropped. I wasn't grieving so hord that he was gone, because I had been grieving his diminished capacity and imminent loss for months beforehand. The important thing is that you were there for your grandmother (and other, surviving relatives) when you were needed. You were there for her.and, someday, yoiu hope that someone will be willing to see you off when it's time. We're all going to the grave, eventually. It is up to us to make those few years mean something. It sounds like you've been doing your part admirably, and I salute you for it. , *Seriously. Is there "noninvasive cancer"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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